Articles by Deepa Vaishnavi V M

Deepa Vaishnavi is a freelance HR professional, soft skills trainer, citizen journalist, mental health advocate, and author of a book based on Indian mythology.

My grandfather was a freedom fighter who was jailed a couple of times during the independence movement. What I remember of him is an old tired man being taken care of by his daughters. He was one of the recipients of the Tamra Patra from the Government of India. I remember him freely sharing smiles and roses from the gardens with people passing by, to the extent that he came to be known as Rose Tatha. He could not find a single shop selling coffee the day Mahatma Gandhi was assassinated. He vowed to give up coffee that day and…

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Visualise this: Many stalls are put up in an area. A number of people visit each of these stalls. Many more people move from one stall to another, peeping in, observing the displays, interacting with those manning the stalls, and may be even transacting. People meeting strangers, striking up conversations, exchanging information and thoughts, and exploring the things that are available there. A familiar face here, a known person there – the hand waves, the ‘Hi’s!, and the catching up. If a market place came to mind, you are not wrong. For indeed, the above was my experience at the…

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I could barely contain my excitement as I stood looking at the Biswa Bangla painting ‘Making of the Goddess’ at the airport. It was Panchami and I was finally in Kolkata to be a part of ‘Pujo,’ which is synonymous with Durga Puja for anyone from Bengal. I had read somewhere that there were around 2500-3000 pandals in Kolkata alone this year and I wanted to see at least 1% of them if not more. After all, Durga Puja in Kolkata had been recently declared by the UNESCO to be on the representative list of the intangible cultural heritage of…

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“My friend’s son failed in his 12th standard exams. He took his life that evening” - Shikha* “I myself had attempted suicide once. I was 23/24 then and straddled with a baby and a mom-in-law with the most acidic tongue, who kept telling me how ugly, dark and unsuitable I was for her dashing, talented son. Little did I know then that she wasn't able to handle clear thinking, razor sharp minds and smart women. She felt that she could control me better if she put me down every time.” - Prerana* The above are just two examples of the…

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For all outward appearances, Neelam (name changed to protect identity) has it all - a working husband, a couple of young and bright children, and a good job for herself. Look deeper, and one finds that her husband is an alcoholic who abuses her regularly.  Not having got his supply of booze since the lockdown started, he has become even more unbearable, screaming and shouting at her for little or no reason... He has also been encouraging their children to abuse her verbally.  Neelam is now worried that, with the government allowing sale of liquor, his abuse may take another…

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The reports are everywhere, confirmed by various sources across the country. The coronavirus pandemic and the resultant lockdown have led to a massive spike in instances of domestic abuse. In a shocking report by the Press Trust of India published in early April, it was revealed that the Childline helpline in India received more than 92000 SOS calls over a period of 11 days during the lockdown, seeking protection from abuse and violence. The National Commission for Women has also confirmed a steady increase in the registration of domestic violence complaints from women since the lockdown was announced. But why…

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Translated by Sandhya Raju நாம் அனைவரும் நெருக்கடியான சூழலில் உள்ளோம், நம்மைச் சுற்றி அனைத்தும் இடப் பிழற்சி போன்ற நிலை உள்ளது. மனநல மருத்துவர் மற்றும் ரிச்மண்ட் பெல்லோஷிப் சொசைட்டியின் பெங்களூரு கிளையின் ஹானரரி ஆலோசகர் Dr  எஸ் கல்யாணசுந்தரம் அவர்களுடனான நம்முடைய முந்தைய உரையாடலில், மன நலம் சார்ந்த பிரச்சனைகள் வெகுவாக அதிகரித்துள்ளதை பார்த்தோம். Dr Kalyanasundaram S கொரோனா தொற்றால், நாம் இந்த பிரச்சனையின் நிலையை தற்போது உணர முடிகிறது - கார்ப்பரேட் நிறுவனத்தில் பணிபுரிவோர் அனைத்து வேலைகளையும் வீட்டிலிருந்தபடியே செய்ய சிரமப்படுவது, பெற்றோர்கள் தங்களின் குழந்தைகளை சமாளிப்பது, முதியோர்காளுக்கு தொற்றை பற்றியும் நிலைமையும் எடுத்துக் கூறுவது... இதையெல்லாம் விட இந்த சவாலான நேரத்தில் தொடர்ந்து பணி புரியும் மருத்துவர்கள், செவிலியர்கள், துணை மருத்துவ சேவை புரிபவர்கள் ஆகியோரின் முடிவில்லா வேலை! இத்தகைய சூழலை சமாளிப்பது எப்படி? Dr  எஸ் கல்யாணசுந்தரம் அவர்களிடம் உரையாடியதிலிருந்து: "மிகவும் மன உளைச்சலில்…

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Translated by Sandhya Raju கொரோனா வைரஸ் அல்லது கோவிட்-19 என்ற நோய்க்கு அறிமுகம் தேவையில்லை. வைரஸ் தொற்று பரவல் பற்றியும் மத்திய மாநில அரசுகள் எடுத்து வரும் நடவடிக்கைகள் குறித்தும் அனைவரும் அறிந்ததே. இந்த கட்டுரை எழுதும் இந்த சமயத்தில் கிட்டத்திட்ட ஆயிரம் பேருக்கு தொற்று பரவி 29 பேர் உயிரிழந்துள்ளனர். இதற்கு மேலும் தொற்று விரைவாக பரவாமல் இருக்க அரசாங்கமும் ஒவ்வொரு தனி நபரும் போதிய பாதுகப்பு நடவடிக்கைகளை மேற்கொள்ளவேண்டும். சமூக விலகல், ஜனதா கர்ஃபியூ, ஊரடங்கு ஆகியவற்றிற்கு நடுவே, மனநலம் குறித்து விவாதிக்கப்படவில்லை, இது போன்ற அசாதாரண சூழலில் பொது சுகாதாரத்தில் ஒரு முக்கிய சவாலாக இது உள்ளது. இச்சமயத்தில் ஆரோக்கியமான மனநிலையை பேணுவதும், குறிப்பாக மனநல பாதிக்கக்கூடியவர்களுக்கு உதவுவதும் முக்கியம். கோவிட்-19 (கொரோனா வைரஸ்) தொற்று  மனநலம் மீது எத்தகைய தாக்கத்தை ஏற்படுத்தும் என பெங்களூருவை சேர்ந்த மனநல மருத்துவர் மற்றும் ரிச்மண்ட் பெல்லோஷிப் சொசைட்டியின்…

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These are difficult times, and the world around us seems headed towards a dystopia of sorts. As discussed in our earlier interview with Dr Kalyanasundaram, Bengaluru-based Consultant Psychiatrist and an Honorary Adviser to the Bengaluru Branch of Richmond Fellowship Society, the risk of mental health issues has increased sharply. Indeed, we are already beginning to see signs among people caught in the situations created by the outbreak of coronavirus – corporate professionals struggling to get all work done from home, parents trying to keep their kids occupied and entertained all day, caregivers trying to explain the situation to the most…

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Coronavirus or COVID-19 needs no introduction. Anyone with access to any form of media today is aware of the current spread of the virus as also the various steps different governments and countries are taking to prevent further outspread. At the time of publishing this interview, the total number of confirmed cases in India stood at 298, with 4 people having died due to the virus. The concern in India currently is that the virus has reached a stage where it will start spreading exponentially if proper care is not taken at both personal and governmental levels. In the midst…

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