What should be an ideal way to find a match? A man and a woman meet and then they decide to marry. Of course, this is the practice followed in many western countries but a rare practice in India. We claim we are a modern and civilized society but still keep a highly orthodox perception about marriage.
There are two roadblocks to perfect marriage in Indian society. One is horoscope matching and the other is the practice of dowry, which is used to decide matches by most parents. The bride and groom rarely get the privilege of taking their own decisions. The younger generation also seems to believe in astrology and dowry.
What prompted me to write this article was the recent surveys and discussions in the city regarding these two issues. A survey conducted this September by the matrimonial portal, shaadi.com show that 66% of women respondents voted against horoscope matching in Bangalore while the percentage was higher in some states like Kerala.
The Indian Court of Women on dowry and related forms of violence against women was held at the Christ University, Bangalore on July 27th, 2009 and the reports showed alarming number of dowry and violence cases in Bangalore itself.
The young generation has to be aware of the far reaching consequences of these systems and make up their mind to fight these evils. Education alone cannot erase our false belief systems and practices but striving to develop an independent and logical mind can help. We must rise up against these indignities. Marriages happens in heaven only when it happens at the sole discretion of the bride and groom.